Small Victories.

As I may have mentioned in the last post, I was unfortunately struck down by a horrible bug, and was struggling to finish 2 x 2500 word essays in the span of 5 days. Now that I’ve finally conquered the virus and finished my two essays, I finally feel like myself again.

I happen to think that that’s half the key to being happy in life. It’s not about where you graduated or what your job is, but its all the small accomplishments you achieve in life that makes you happy. For years, I believed that happiness was something that would happen to me in the future by some arbitrary point in my life. Maybe if I graduated, I’d be happier. If I moved out of home, I’d be happier. If I had a boyfriend, I’d be happier. But then I realised if I waited for those big changes to happen for me to be happy then was I meant to stay miserable until then? Absolutely not. I had to learn how to be happy and how to enjoy my life right now, by making small changes to my life now. For example, joining a gym. I had been meaning to do so for months, maybe years, but I kept coming up with excuses not to. Finally, I bit the bullet and here I am, 6 weeks in and I feel great! Its such a small insignificant change but each day I go, I find a little joy in it. Finding the energy to actually get there, doing an entire workout and then jumping on the scales each week and seeing a change is such a victory for me.

The second half of that key to happiness is putting yourself out there. You cannot have good things happen to you by sitting at home doing nothing. You need to go out, push yourself. Find what it is that you wanna do, find what you have to offer the world and then do it. And yeah more often than not, you get rejected and hurt and you end up feeling bad. But once in a while, something will come back, whether its a job interview or an invite to a party and you’ll be glad you did it.

Life, happiness, its all about the small victories.

S

Department Store Interview

I wrote a whole long blog post on this earlier, but did not manage to save it. (Blogger usually does it automatically). So now I have to start again, which is probably good because I can’t be bother writing the whole long post again.

To preface this, this week is probably one of the busiest weeks for me assessment-wise. To add to this, I decided to add a stressful group interview today. And then to top it off, I got a horrible virus last night making me really sick and really tired.

A week ago, I got an invite to participate in a group interview for a Christmas casual position for a department store, and so I booked one for the first available time.

So anyway, I decided this morning to skip the day of uni, postpone the interview to another day and spend the day in bed working on my assessments. But as I called the department to reschedule, I was told that it was highly unlikely that I would be given another invite for another interview, as 5000 other participants were waiting for interviews.

So the rest of the morning, I spent trying to decide whether or not to go to the interview. I decided at the last minute to go, and so I rushed to grab my things, get ready and go. Unfortunately fate was not on my side, I missed 2 different trains, and then the third train was delayed. And when I finally got a train, it got to the city at exactly 2pm, 10 minutes after I was supposed to arrive.

So I walked in late, sat down and noticed that there was a large span of desks, maybe 10-15 with 6 people at each desk. After introductions from all the existing staff members, observers were assigned to each desk and were told to observe as we interacted and completed the group tasks.
The first task was a discussion of the best way to introduce a rewards program to a new customer, and the second was a task that tested your customer service skills.

All in all, I don’t think I got the job. The other girls were definitely more outspoken. Even so, I was excited enough to have been asked for an interview, and definitely grateful for the experience of being part of a group interview and seeing first-hand the process of selection. I’m pretty sure all the things that went wrong today were a sign that I wasn’t going to get this job, but it was a good learning experience and hopefully I’ve learned something I can take with me for my next interview.

S.

P.S. My next interview is next week for a unpaid volunteer position in an emergency room of a hospital. I really hope I get this one, even if its unpaid.

 

 

 

 

 

Life Now.

My life changed about three months ago, and in those three months, I’ve learned some invaluable lessons. I classify this as the start of my new life, my new chapter, my new beginning. So the last post was a little intro into this new “stage” of my life. This post will be a little more background of where I’m at right now.

As I said before, I’m newly single, jobless and living at home.

Right now, I’m in my last semester of uni. I’m in my fourth year of a three year degree (yes, that’s right) and I will be graduating in three months with a Bachelor of Science with majors in Psychology and Pharmacology.

In the last three months, I’ve sent out about a hundred resumes. I had two interviews; one for a jewellery store (which I did not get), and another for a volunteer position at my university (which I also did not get). Yesterday, I received another invite for another job interview in a big department store (I’ll let you know how that goes). Other than that, I have hardly any experience and I have no idea where my career will start or where it will take me. Right now my plan is not to have a plan. Just put myself out there, send out as many resumes and see what comes back.

I’m also looking to do more charity work, more volunteer work to help me build up my motivation, my experience, my emotional stability and my confidence. Oh, and I joined a gym.

I’ve learned a lot in the last three months. I’ve grown up a ton and realised a lot too. I’ve learned to be more independent, I’ve learned the value of friends, I’ve learned the importance of prioritising right and not losing yourself in the process of life. But more importantly, I’ve learned that there’s absolutely no point in having a plan. You can plan your life the way you think it should be, but in the end all the expectation and anticipation will only lead you to heartache and heartbreak. You’ll always be looking back at what should’ve been or what could’ve been rather than enjoying what you have.

So this is the S plan.

Life Before.

You know how in movies, you always get a glimpse of the old life of the star character before a big dramatic change and the rest of the movie is about learning, adapting and accepting the new change? Well, life has now put me in the perfect position for one of these life-changing experiences. Not that I’m star quality or anything, but at the least I’m the star of my own life and this blog.

To summarise the position I’m in now: I’m 21 years old, newly single, and with 3 months left of my last semester of university (Bach. Science with majors in pharmacology and psychology). I’m also unemployed and living at home, with no career path and no prospect of a boyfriend or a job.

To preface the rest of this blog, I have no idea what this big life changing experience(s) will be. I have zero plans but I know with absolute certainty that my life is about to change.

S.